Admitting you don’t love Christmas is sometimes like saying you hate puppies — especially the really fluffy ones — or that you think Caillou is just misunderstood. (Wrong and wrong.)
But for some of us, Christmas is NOT the most magical time of the year. It’s a glitter-sprinkled month (or more) of extra stress or anxiety or frustration or *insert other annoying feelings here.*
Not only do you feel THAT, but you have the added irritation of people trying to MAKE you feel things you can’t/won’t/don’t want to feel.
(People are serious about Christmas and they want you to be, too.)
The shopping stresses me out. I put a ton of pressure on myself to be done really early so I don’t have to go out in December when the stores are crazy. (We have a gift system so I don’t stress about how MANY gifts to buy, luckily.)
I had to go out for gift cards and a few final stocking stuffers last weekend and my anxiety was terrible, even though I went alone and tried to relax. I don’t get that excited-and-happy Christmas buzz that others seem to get from a decorated mall playing cheerful holiday music. Nope, nope, NOPE.
I don’t like routine changes so the “vacation” aspect of Christmas is difficult. I still have to work, but the kids are home (and totally nuts with excitement). Sometimes I don’t have to work, but still feel that I should.
The visiting and travelling and scheduling make everything “off” for two solid weeks and, oh, did I mention THE BIG DRY NEEDLE-DROPPING THING THAT I AM SO TIRED OF STARING AT in our living room? I’m itching to put the room back to “normal” and if that makes me a Grinch, oh well.
Most of all, I think, I don’t like the pressure and the build-up of ONE! BIG! DAY! because there is such a letdown when it’s all over.
It’s the biggest case of The Sunday Blues ever, times a million.
Even Christmas morning, after the presents are opened, I feel like it’s all over. There are still hours left in the day, and dinner and visiting and everything, but my favourite part is seeing everyone open their gifts and stockings. When that’s over, it’s like … Oh. Well. That’s done for another year.
In exactly the same way I’m always desperate to see summer vacation come to an end, I’m looking forward to gettin’ on with this season of joy and fudge and rumballs.
In the meantime, of course, I’m doing all of the baking and cleaning and prep work that you’re supposed to be doing as an adult on Dec. 23. I’m changing the sheets for company and cleaning out the fridge and putting away the toys. I’m taking deep breaths and reminding myself no one will look at the state of the baseboards. (Please don’t.)
I’m finishing my last few assignments (until Monday when I’ll definitely be back in the office, clamoring to feel normal again). I’m taking deep breaths and reminding myself that it’s OK to take a couple of days off, that everything has slowed down for a while, and that we will not be penniless if I step away from the keyboard.
I’m singing with the kids and helping D finish his latest Lego creation (mostly because we need the table back for Christmas dinner). I’m trying really hard to be patient with the kids + their constant chatter.

I don’t love Christmas but I’m trying. I’m trying for my kids and for my husband and for our families. I’m going to take my own chalkboard-ed advice and try to calm the eff down and enjoy it as much as I can.
I see you, too, not loving Christmas. I see the split-second flash of panic in your eyes when people ask that CONSTANT December question of “You ready for Christmas?” I see the eyerolls at the over-the-top merriment because you’re just looking forward to a Netflix marathon (that sounds amazing BTW). I see the pressure to show everyone you’re OK — you’re having a good Christmas, really! — and no, you don’t need to accept their pity invite.
We don’t have to love Christmas. We don’t even have to like it. But we should, however, figure out the things that are going to make it a good day for us.
For me, that’s spending time with my family, eating mashed potatoes with gravy, playing board games, eating my mom’s famous home fries for breakfast morning breakfast, and seeing everyone’s faces as they open their presents.
(Yes, I also noticed that two of my favourite parts include potatoes.)
If you’re not a Christmas-lover, don’t feel guilty or like something is wrong with you. Do what you can to make it an OK day, whatever that means. Consider this a virtual fist-bump as we take lots of deep breaths and look forward to getting back to normal.
xo
COLOURS
C wants a “purple and pink” colour scheme. I do not like purple (it pained me to paint her nightstands purple, although she insisted) so I’m going with lavender and blush with little touches of super-soft aqua and grey. And lots of white, of course!
She has beadboard on the lower half of her room, which we’ll keep white, and the top half will likely be a soft grey so we can have fun with the next step …
FURNITURE
We’re going to build her a massive loft bed (!!!) that has a raised play area, and it will have a large play area underneath (probably structured to look like a little house) for playing Barbies,
We’re also going to paint the hand-me-down wooden dressers a custom-mixed shade of Fusion Mineral Paint (pink!) and add gorgeous white rose hardware from Phillips and Chestnut.
We might also take the desk from D’s room (he’s got his own room makeover in the works, too) and turn it into the “makeup table” she’s been begging for.
LIGHTING
We’re taking out the ceiling fan (not a good idea to have one of those with a loft bed!) and replacing it with this stunning flush-mount light with crystals from Kent. C is obsessed with the fact that she’s getting a new “chan-da-weer” for her bedroom, and I can’t wait to see it installed!
ACCESSORIES
I’ve been dying over this pillow ever since I first pinned in, so I think it’s inspired the whole room without me even realizing it.
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I also want to DIY the light switch plates and outlet covers with lots of glitter for a fun touch, and do a new gallery wall in the soft tones of her new palette.
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So that’s the plan — I think! It could change if the little miss keeps pinning new things every day. I’ve creating a mini Pinny monster! 😉
I had a wooden dowel leftover from another project, and it was three feet long, so that’s how wide I decided to make the backdrop.
The rest of backdrop is built with three 1×2″ boards from Kent (each six feet long). That’s it! Each board is $3.30 so the framework is about $10. Pretty great!
I plan on setting it all up on Christmas Eve, once the kids are asleep, so C sees her brand-new popstar “stage” when she comes down on Christmas morning. I know she’s going to love it!
So who’s inspired to build one now? Let me know if you do — I want to see photos!
Sitting in my little basement office, eating appetizers and playing games with myself … while all dressed up?
Yeah, that’s something I’ve been doing for FOUR YEARS NOW. (See the very first one, the second one, and last year’s party.)
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| Last year’s party was off the chain … whatever that means! |
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| The only party where I had some actual guests! |
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| The one that started it all |
When I presented at BlogJam Atlantic, it was crazy to meet other bloggers and find out that my weird little stay-at-home party was actually … a good idea?
Anita from Twirp Communications suggested we get together and host a bunch of self-employed Christmas parties on the same day, so here we are! Let’s get started … and be sure to read all the way to the end for the giveaway because PRIZES!
So here we go!
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| There were some real studs at this year’s party! |
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| The mashed potato bar was mmmmmmmmmm! |
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| And this is the ULTIMATE dessert! How’d they know?! |
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| Twelve bloggers peeing! Four gambling birds! Lolololol! |
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| FOUR YEARS IN A ROW! This is unprecedented! Time for presents! |
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| We love a good dance party! |
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| Thank you to all of my clients, sponsors and editors for a fantastic year. Have a safe and happy holiday season, and I can’t wait to work with you in 2017. |
I’m giving away a $25 Chapters Indigo electronic giftcard to one lucky reader who comments on this post. That’s all you have to do — just comment, and make sure you’re either logged in (so I can reach out) or you leave your email address in your comment.
Thanks for attending my self-employed Christmas party, and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season, lovely readers!
xo
If you’ve enjoyed my solo Christmas Party, I’m sure you’ll enjoy the other solopreneurs who have joined me in this fun, new tradition. Please visit all of the blogs and leave them a comment. Not only will you make them feel good, you could win some other awesome prizes.
Next up on your tour is Anita at Twirp Communications.
So you have this friend and they blog. You’re not completely sure why or how or if they make any money from it, but you try to be a good friend and read their blog.
(Your friend really appreciates it!)
But did you know there are so many OTHER really easy things you could do to support that friend who blogs? Ten things, in fact.
I decided to write this post not because I’m trying to give my own friends instructions (really!) but because I often will offer up a tidbit about what it’s like living in the blogosphere and my friends are like “REALLY? I didn’t know it helped if I commented on the Facebook post?!”
So here are some easy ways you can really, really HELP your friend / neighbour / relative who blogs …
1. Like their* posts on Facebook.
No, not their status about it taking two hours to get home. Their bloggy posts!
It takes half a second to click “like” and you know what? It can make a HUGE difference. Because you clicking “like” might mean that your own Facebook friends (people who don’t follow the blogger or even know who they are) might see “Jane Smith liked a post by This Super Cool Blogger.” Those friends will be able to see the post (with the same photo/headline you saw) and they might decide to read it and like it, too. The blogger might even get a new follower!
*If they have a page for the blog, try to like THAT post — not the one they shared on their personal page. The more eyes on their “official” Facebook page, the better.
2. Leave a comment!
Facebook comments are great because other Facebookers can see them and it gets conversations — sometimes even debates! — going, which gets more eyes on the posts. It doesn’t have to be long or anything. Even a simple “Really enjoyed this!” means a lot, or a well-timed “Haha!”
Commenting on blog posts themselves is also nice because it’s “forever,” unlike a Facebook comment that will fade into the timeline sunset after a day. That blog post might go viral months or even years down the road, and it’s impressive to have a bunch of comments/questions below it.
3. Share/retweet their posts.
If you really enjoy a post or relate to something your friend has said, share that shiz!
Sharing a blogger’s posts is a HUGE high-five because it’s automatically going to put all of your Facebook friends’ eyes on it (whereas with a “like” it’s only a possibility that their friends will see it). Same with Twitter — everyone will see it. This is a great compliment to your blogger friend because sharing = caring.
4. Like/follow all of their accounts.
Never post on Twitter, but you have an account anyway? FOLLOW YOUR FRIEND! It won’t matter to you if you never use it, but it could really help them.
“Like” their page on Facebook and HIDE IT if you really have to, but at least it’s still “liked.” (And, come on, I’m sure you’re not really going to hide it, right?)
Bloggers need to hit certain numbers of followers in order for brands to consider them for paid campaigns and sponsored content, so numbers are very important!
5. Double-tab those Instas!
Every “like” is like giving the blogger a nice warm smile. They feel good when they see them roll in, and having a lot of likes on a photo can help them land more opportunities. Which brings me to my next point …
6. Pay special attention to anything sponsored.
Clients and brands really want to see interactions on a sponsored post, whether it’s a simple Tweet or Instagram photo or a blog post. If the blogger seems to have drummed up a lot of interest for their product or service, they’re more likely to hire that blogger again. Engagement is everything!
So enter the giveways. Like and comment on those posts. (“That looks great!” “Ooh, I want one!”) Your friend will appreciate it a lot.
7. Tag them!
Share the awesomeness of your blogger friend with someone else by tagging a friend beneath one of the blogger’s Instagram photo (“Hey @friend you would love this account!”) and maybe snagging them a shiny new follower.
Tag them on Twitter as you quote one of their tweets, and the retweets could turn into MANY new followers.
8. Pin their photos.
If your blogger friend is trying hard to make their content known on Pinterest (aren’t we all?) it helps a lot to pin their photos, tutorials, projects, designs, etc.
Go to their blog’s Pinterest account and look around for a minute. If you see something you like, pin it to your own board — making the pin appear in the timeline of everyone who follows you on Pinterest,
9. Support their advertisers.
Blog ads have special customized links so the advertiser knows exactly where their traffic is coming from (i.e. “Blog ABC sent us 4,618 new customers this year,” or “Wow, Blog ABC encouraged a lot of people to buy our scotch-guarded underwear!”). Every click counts.
Don’t go crazy clicking on every banner ad and affiliate link they have (you know, unless you want to?) but if you see something that interests you as you’re reading their posts, click it! They might not earn anything unless you make a purchase, but they might earn a little something (fractions of pennies) just because you clicked on it — you never know.
10. Tell them you enjoy their blog.
Even without a single click, you can make a blogger’s day by telling them what they’re doing matters. That you read it! That you liked it! That you laughed at the headline and maybe you didn’t get around to reading the full post yet, but you can’t wait to see down and read it.
Sometimes bloggers get so caught up in clicks and numbers and analytics that we forget about the real people in our lives who are regularly, quietly reading our work … and just not being public about it. When we hear from you, it makes our hearts grow three sizes. Thank you!