When people find out that both D and C wear cloth diapers, they are often curious. To people unfamiliar with cloth, they think it sounds like a ton of work — and that cloth-diapering two babies must be an INSANE amount of work.
But in actuality? It’s so not. I promise.
Here are a few of the FAQs I tend to get about cloth diapering two kids:
How many cloth diapers do you have?
We have 26 “regular rotation” diapers, plus four velcro ones that are out of commission because they’re still in the process of being converted to snap diapers (ahem, Darling Husband and your snap tool!). So far 26 has been more than enough, considering D is almost two and C is five weeks old. If you have two newborns, you may need more.
How often do you wash the diapers?
When D was our only cloth-diaper-wearer, I washed them every third day. Now that C is wearing them, too, it’s been every second day OR every third day — depending on what time they are put in the washing machine.
What kind of cloth diapers do you use?
First of all, all our diapers — every single one — is a “one-size” diaper. This means it can be adjusted by snaps down the front that make it bigger or smaller, allowing it to fit babies from 8 lbs. to 35 lbs. I love this system, because it means both kids can share diapers, even though they are drastically different weights. A few quick snaps is all it takes.
Our stash is mostly bumGenuis, and those are our absolute favourites. We have 13 snapped bumGenius Elementals (originally called Organics), 1 snapped bumGenius Freetime, 1 snapped bumGenius 4.0, and four of the old velcro 3.0 bumGenius (which were replaced by the 4.0s). We LOVE the snapped diapers, and depised the velcro ones (which got pilly and became unusable), and that’s why we’re in the process of converting our velcro to snaps (it’s easy — someone* just got sidetracked when the project was 95% done).
*Someone = Darling Husband
We also have five Charlie Banana snapped One-Size Diapers, which we just got before C was born. I’m loving them, and they are giving bumGenius a real run for their money. They also have a much bigger variety of colours and patterns, making them extra stylish.
The rest of our stash is comprised of some cheap no-name type of diapers that were bought randomly in stores because I liked their colour or print. They aren’t as good, quality-wise, as the bumGenius or the Charlie Bananas, but they’re definitely not bad.
How do you wash cloth diapers? Is it disgusting?
It’s not exactly sunshine and roses. I mean, we are talking about poop and pee! But it’s really not that bad. I talked about the washing instructions here, and I’m a little a lot more relaxed with it now.
I empty the diaper bags (laundry bags that hang on the back of their bedroom doors) onto the top of the dryer. I toss any nighttime disposables in the trash. I toss the pee-only diapers straight into the washer (taking out the insert, if they have one). I gather up the poopy diapers, take them into the bathroom, and shake anything, er, solid, into the toilet. Then I toss them into the washer along with everything else.
I turn the washer on a cold wash cycle (with an extra rinse) and add a scoop of diaper soap (I like Nellie’s and Rockin’ Green). Then I go back in and put the machine on a warm cycle with an extra rinse. When that’s done, I throw them in the dryer. When they’re dry, I stuff the pocket diapers, snap everything up so they look nicer, and throw them back in the linen closet. Easy-peasy.
Do the kids ever wear disposable diapers?
Yup, they sure do! Sometimes if we’re making a long day-trip into the city, we will use disposables so we’re not lugging around a huge bag of thick cloth diapers. And D (our almost-two-year-old) has been wearing one every single night since he was about 10 months old.
Cloth just doesn’t absorb as much pee as a disposable, and many kids get to a point where they will soak through them overnight (and wake up, which is evil). So I don’t mind (much) that he wears one at night. I still hate hate HATE buying a crate of Pampers, but it does last a long time, so I grudgingly accept it.
C wears cloth at night since she’s still waking up to nurse, so it’s not a big deal to change her. Although some nights I do stick a leftover disposable on her, so I can be lazy and not change her until the morning.
Do you use disposable wipes or cloth wipes?
We use cloth wipes almost all the time. We have a big bin of them in the linen closet (where all of the cloth diapers are stored, so we don’t wake up a sleeping kid to get a diaper). Our cloth wipe collection is a mixture of:
They all work equally well, so I would suggest cheap washcloths as the easiest option. I just wet them by running them under the tap for a few seconds, but Darling Husband prefers to spritz them with a spray bottle of plain water. Tomatoes, to-mah-toes.
Are you a crazy dirty hippie?
No, I’m really not! To be totally honest, I didn’t even recycle at home — for the most part — until 2011.** Shameful, I know. I only wanted to cloth diaper because of the huge cost-savings, and because they look cute. The environmental factor is just, um, like a bonus?
**Because we moved into a house in a neighbourhood where you have to use CLEAR*** garbage bags so we HAD to recycle or else they would not pick up our garbage.
***We are allowed one black bag per week. It is for tampons and pads and other private bizness, so I call it the Bag of Shame.
I guess I liked the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles more than I realized, because as soon as I sat down to write this post about ear tubes, I thought “Totally tubular, duddddes!” Ah, miss those turtles. Raphael (the red one) was my favourite.
But let’s get back on track — this post is about our toddler, D, and his hearing. Not childhood TV shows and their awesomeness.
We took D back for his follow-up at the ENT (Ear Nose Throat specialist) on Monday. He had a hearing test and some other mysterious tests where they put earbud-type things in his ears, and this is what we found out:
So all in all, it was a good appointment. At least we have answers, and a plan.
It’s difficult to watch your child fail a hearing test. But it would also be difficult to watch him pass a hearing test with flying colours, have no fluid in his ears, and still have these struggles with speech. If I had to choose either option, I think I’m happy we have the former.
The ENT was able to give us a date for the surgery (August 15), BUT when I mentioned he also is on the waiting list to have another minor procedure,* he said we can try to schedule them together so he only has to go under anestesia once. So right now we’re waiting for the two offices to coordinate and try to find a time they can “share” little D.
Thank you for the well-wishes and thinking-of-you messages we got before and after his appointment. We feel pretty good about things, and are glad to be moving forward with getting D’s ears fixed up.
I feel nervous when I think about what the surgery will do for his hearing. Will he have permanent damage? Will his hearing actually improve? Will it be a dramatic change, as he picks up new words left and right? Or will he struggle to catch up for years?
Mostly, though, I’m just glad something is going to happen.
*His other procedure is having a blocked tear duct opened up. Having a blocked tear duct means your eye tears up a lot and gets gunky (yellowish) in the corner. It’s a common problem in babies, but in most cases the duct opens up by the first birthday. In D’s case, it did not, and it’s recommended he get it done or else he’ll have a teary, gunky eye for keeps. It has improved a lot in the last few months, but it flares up occassionally, so it’s still worth getting done. Poor little guy.
Our son, D, is 23 months old.
Actually, he’s one year, 11 months, three weeks, and one day old.
But he’s still ONE.
I get laughed at a lot lately, when I say things like, “But he’s only ONE!” or “My one-year-old …” People give me funny looks and say, “He’s two!” and I’m all, “No, he’s not two, he’s ONNNNNEEE!”
You could say I’m in denial about his upcoming second birthday on June 6. I am, I know.
It’s just that he’s still my baby. He’s still one! Two sounds so much older! Up until a week and a half ago, he’d never even had a haircut. I mean, clearly, he is one.
I wasn’t this weird when he turned one, because one still sounded young. But two! Two is a different story. Two is right before three, and everyone knows three-year-olds look like six-year-olds sometimes.
So right up until 12:01 a.m. on June 6, I will be calling him my one-year-old. You can laugh all you want, but he is still one. For now.
Ready for another update in our Toddler Hearing & Speech Saga? Oh, the dramz involved in parenting!
When we last left off, our son, D (now 23 months) saw a really great ENT (Ear Nose Throat doctor). He confirmed that he had fluid in both his ears, and it could have been there for any length of time. It could also be contributing to his minor hearing loss (he can’t hear anything under 40 decibels) and his pronounced speech delay.
At the end the appointment, the ENT told us that yes, D could definitely be a candidate for having tubes in his ears — which are placed in kids who have frequent ear infections, OR kids like D who just have constant fluid that affects his hearing.
But (BUT!) the ENT could not consent to giving him tubes until he was sure the fluid was really and truly not going anywhere on its own. So we booked a follow-up for May 28, and sat back to wait. Well, not just wait. We had another baby and stuff. You know, to keep busy.
Well, May 28 is finally here. We’re going back to the ENT today for a few reasons:
Since the doctor will almost definitely ask me, I’ve been trying to put together a list of the limited (spoken) vocabulary D has. Regular readers will remember that D is quite proficient in American Sign Language. He can do more than 50 signs — probably more, if I really sat down and counted — and understands even more than that.
But speech-wise? Not nearly as great.
Here’s an up-to-date list of what he’s saying now, at 23 months. Crossed-out words indicate words he used to say, but no longer does. Brackets indicate his pronunciation issues:
I think that’s about it, and — as you can see — a lot of the words are not very clear. It blows my mind that this child struggles to say “milk” but can say “Elmo” pretty clearly! Damn Sesame Street commercialism!
Two-year-olds are supposed to have at least 50 words at their disposal, plus string together multiple words. He never strings together spoken words, but he does sign multiple words together (like “Baby cry” or “Dada go?”).
His signing has actually progressed incredibly in the last little while. He can sign the lyrics to whole songs as I sing them — Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star and Itsy Bitsy Spider and a weird stop/go song about bugs.
He can’t say any colours other than purple, but he can sign red, blue, and yellow and identify them. When he wants to get out his crayons and markers, he signs “colour.”
He knows the signs for playground equipment — which is important, because I can sign “slide” or “swing” to him when the playground is noisy, and he understands (and his hearing seems worse in noisy locations).
He can sign that he wants pancakes for breakfast instead of toast. He can sign that he’d rather have water than milk. And you bet he’ll start signing “cookie” when we are near the bakery in the grocery store. When he saw me trying to sneak an empty ice cream bar box into the recycling bin the other day, he signed “ice cream” immediately. His signs are not always perfect, but they’re always enough that I know what he means.
So far all of the doctors we’ve seen have been very, ah, disdainful, about D’s sign language. If I had a dollar for every doctor who implied D would be talking more if I hadn’t taught him to sign, I would have … well, probably $5. But still!
I’m very, very, very interested in what we will hear at today’s appointment.
I just want answers, so we can start doing more to help D.