When Sober October or Dry January is your life

When Sober October is your life {Heather's Handmade Life}

I don’t drink alcohol.

The last time I had a drink, my oldest child had just turned one. He’s nine and a half now, so I’ve been a non-drinker for eight and a half years.

You know who does drink alcohol?

Just. About. Everyone.

It isn’t always easy to be sober when it feels like the rest of the world is throwing a party without you.

From cringe-worthy conversations about sobriety to what I wish more people knew about what “not drinking” feels like, here are five things I have learned in almost nine years of being a non-drinker …

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We extended our dining room hutch!

We extended our dining room hutch! {Heather's Handmade Life}

I’ve given furniture “haircuts” to make it fit into a smaller space, but I think this was the first time I’ve taken a piece of furniture and “grown it” into a larger piece.

It all started when I was standing at our kitchen peninsula, staring at the back wall of our dining area and trying to decide what I could do to like it more. You can see this wall from almost our entire main level — from the front door, from the kitchen, from the living room — which is the curse of open-concept living. It needed to be a showstopping wall.

The wall was pretty blah, with just our hutch and our son’s computer desk.

We received our hutch as a hand-me-down when we moved in eight years ago, and it’s looked great since we painted it white.

Read more about painting our hutch white

While I still loved the way the hutch looked, there was something “off” I couldn’t pinpoint. There was all this wasted space between the top of the hutch and the ceiling, and I just wanted to … I don’t know, stretch it up!

Hmm.

I’ve heard of people raising their kitchen cabinets up and hanging them directly under the ceiling (I begged, but Handy Husband said no) because it “extends the eye” and makes the room feel taller.

Could I do something similar to our dining room hutch?

Continue reading in my weekly DIY column, My Handmade Home …

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Extend your dining room hutch! {Heather’s Handmade Life}

Top 10 lessons from BlogJam’s Preserve Retreat 2019

I got home yesterday from BlogJam 2019’s Preserve Retreat at Oak Island just BURSTING with so many new ideas and so much inspiration — not just for my blog, but for my writing career and my life in general.

I’ve been attending this conference since it started five years ago, and it’s always a highlight of the fall for me.

Me at the very first BlogJam back in 2015

I spent the weekend tweeting away all of the great advice I heard, so I thought I’d put the highlights together in a post so you can all read about what some of the biggest and best bloggers in the region have to say about everything from making money to live video.

Let’s dive in …

1. PHOTOGRAPHY

Michelle Doucette from East Coast Food Stories did a great presentation on flat-lay photography and I came away with tips that I can’t wait to implement.

THE BEST PHOTOGRAPHY TIP OF THE WEEKEND:

Use laminate floor tiles, wallpaper, small pieces of beadboard, etc. to get different backdrops for flat-lays and any up-close photography. WHAT A GENIUS IDEA! Start the car because I’m off to Kent to buy flooring samples!

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The summer camp struggle

Our kids spent the day zooming down water slides at Atlantic Splash Adventure, but I wasn’t waiting at the bottom to take their picture.

They spent a week taking swimming lessons and earned badges without me ever watching from the sidelines.

They made friends I’ve never met, and went on field trips to places I’ve never been. 

They were in summer day camp.

I was here, at home, working.

I’ve worked from home since our son was born, but it’s evolved from very casual freelance — writing during his nap — to a full-time job that keeps me busy 40+ hours a week. 

Our son is now nine and our daughter is seven, heading into Grade 4 and Grade 2. While working from home means I could, in theory, keep them at home with me every day, I can’t write or edit or do telephone interviews in the midst of total chaos. 

I’ve gradually signed the kids up for more day camps each summer, as my workload has increased, and this summer we were up to six full weeks of camp. While it certainly helped me stay on top of my work, earn a living and maintain my sanity, it also made me a little sad. 

This was our kids’ new full-time life, and it had nothing to do with me.

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Teaching kids to pack their lunch

Teaching kids to pack their lunch + FREE PRINTABLE {Heather's Handmade Life}

Our kids spent five weeks of the summer in all-day camps that required me to pack lunches. At least during the school year, our kids order hot lunch once or twice a week to give me a break!

By the end of August, I was so sick of packing lunches that I didn’t think I could look at another pudding cup.

The solution? Outsource the task! 

I decided our kids, at seven and nine years old, were surely old enough to pack their own lunches. Just before school started, I printed out a list of guidelines and stuck it to the side of the fridge. 

I broke it down into “snacks” and “entrees,” and wrote how many items of a particular category the kids were allowed to pack. Our daughter spotted the list right away and was thrilled. Apparently her older friends already pack their own lunches (“without a list, even!”) and she’s always up for an opportunity to feel more grown-up.

I don’t know which of us was more joyful on the evening before the very first day of school. (Well, me, for sure — but she was very happy to be packing her own lunch.)

The list makes it easy for them. If they’re ordering lunch at school, they only need to pack items from the “snacks” category. Treats are listed under the heading “Choose 1,” baked goods say “Choose 1-2” and fruits and veggies are a mandatory “Choose 2-3.”

The “entrees” menu includes a build-your-own lunch option where they choose two from the protein category (rolled-up ham, turkey slices, cheese, hard-boiled egg) and one from the grain category (crackers, bagel, tortilla).

If they want something hot in their thermos instead, the list suggests they “politely ask Mom or Dad” and leave their empty thermos on the stove as a reminder for us to heat something up in the morning. (We often do pasta, dinner leftovers or pancakes/waffles in their thermoses.)

So far, the kids are still liking the independence of packing their own lunches. They remind me when I forget — it’s a perfect bedtime-stalling chore — and seem to enjoy considering their choices in each category.

(I watched our daughter seriously deliberate between gummies and a pudding cup and eventually decide on the pudding because she wanted to use her pretty new spork.)

What’s interesting is that the lunches our kids pack now are much healthier than the ones my husband used to pack for them. The kids follow my list, dutifully packing 2-3 items from the fruits and veggies section, whereas he’d throw in gummies and a pudding cup — and heck, maybe a cookie — just because it’s easy. 

Let’s hope they don’t realize that, or I might have a lunch-making revolt on my hands. 😉

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